Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other. Generally speaking, these meetings occur when we reach a limit, when we need to die and be reborn emotionally. These meetings are waiting for us, but more often than not, we avoid them happening. If we are desperate, though, if we have nothing to lose, or if we are full of enthusiasm for life, then the unknown reveals itself, and our universe changes direction.
A friend of mine posted this quote on Facebook this morning. For some reason, I’ve never heard of Paulo Coelho, although when I look him up, he’s very well published. It looks like I might need to start reading.
Some people call them angels. Others call them guides. Others call them pre-destined meetings. Some even call them people known from previous lives. Whatever they are called, I definitely believe in them. I know that certain people have come into my life for a very specific reason. After the event is over, I never see them again. A great example of this was the woman who was my sponsor when I left my second husband. I had been trying to leave that destructive marriage for at least a year, but I could not do it. I kept making excuses, giving into the fear of being alone and otherwise avoiding the extremely painful and difficult task of unshackling our wedded souls. I knew how painful a divorce was, and I knew the number of years it would take to unravel the bonds that we had formed. I wanted to avoid it at all costs. Finally, the costs were getting too great. I knew it, but I kept acting like the elephant in the room was not there.
I went to a meeting that I’d never been to before. I only went once. This one time, a woman spoke about her story, and it was an exact replica of mine. But, she had come through to the other side in a way that was very appealing to me. “I want THAT,” I told myself. I got up the nerve after the meeting to ask her to sponsor me. She was thrilled to do it. I started calling her, and she started coaching me on how to better honor myself in a crazy situation. Eventually, she caught on that the biggest problems weren’t mine. This was a bad relationship and had the potential to be dangerous. For some reason, she uttered the words that I needed to hear at the exact time I was able to hear them, and I acted. I’d heard the same words 1000 times before from friends and sponsors, but, this time – from her – the clouds parted and I heard them.
Our relationship ended shortly after by my own choice because of other reasons, but she helped me do the un-doable act. It was this act that set me on a path of healing and growth that I desperately needed. Had I stayed, I’m sure some other angel would have appeared, but I may have died – emotionally or physically – before I did what I needed to do. I saw her years later, and I told her how grateful I was for the role she played in my life. I don’t even think she remembered me. It doesn’t matter. I remembered her.
One of the most exciting things I do is meet new people. Without new people coming in and out of my life there is stagnation. Some people ask why I do Match.com. It’s a way to bring random new people into my life. Sure, it’s frustrating and crazy at times, but my Higher Power speaks to me through people, and the greater the opportunity for Him to work, the more seeds will be planted. So, bring ’em on. I also realize that at the times that I was most depressed and most stuck, I was the most isolated. I don’t think it’s a coincidence. People are God with skin on. If you walk into my life, there’s a reason. Either I need you or you need me. It just takes somewhere between a minute and a century to find out which one it is.
So often, I meet women that are in a situation similar to what I’ve experienced in my life. At first, we don’t know that. We feel an attraction to each other and start to talk more. Before we know it, she says something that tells me where she is stuck. Ahhhhhh … my brain says … that’s why we’ve been thrown together. I think it’s interesting that I’ve met 3 writers, and my Dad released a book in the first month I’ve come to Baton Rouge and only a year after I started writing. It makes me giggle when I get an awareness of what’s happening. God has a sense of humor. He couldn’t tell me that he wanted me to explore this writing thing and send me to a workshop. No … he has to show me how to be a writer through other people. And, I know that it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m going to pursue writing beyond what I’m doing, but these people are showing up to teach me something. I can’t wait to learn what it is.
When I met my coach Jessica, I had joined this gym but never used it. I was going to cancel my membership, but I thought I’d try a personal trainer first to see if I could get motivated. I walked into the gym, and I asked her about the prices for a trainer. I didn’t know she was one. She was 20 something. I had in my mind that I should work with someone more my age. We started talking, and she said she’d love to train me for running because that’s what she loved to do. I got this really good feeling about it, and I can’t explain it. All of a sudden, I wanted her to be my trainer. As our training developed, she told me one day that I had inspired her to get up earlier in the morning so that she wasn’t rushing around so much. I was stunned. I didn’t even know she had a need, but here I am paying her, and I’m inspiring her. She inspired me to blog. We’ve inspired each other on a daily basis with dating, nutrition struggles and training. This was one of those meetings that was meant to be, I believe. I avoided going to that gym for a year in order to stay stuck. It wasn’t conscious, but in a way it was. When I was ready, she was there. That meeting was pre-destined for a lot of reasons. Sometimes she says things, and I recognize them from somewhere that never happened. I know it’s a soul connection, a history that neither one of us can ever see.
I can’t count how many times this has happened in my life. At times, my soul recognizes somebody for an instant, and we have a brief interaction. Other times, we have a lifelong friendship that goes in and out of closeness and distance. Sometimes, it happens several times in a week. Other times there is a long dry spell. I find it exciting to meet people. My ex-husband was a salesman who loved cold-calling. He said you never knew which prospect would be the next great relationship. That’s what I love about meeting new people. I never know who might be the next angel who ushers me into an even greater soul-changing situation. If I’m not ready, I can always say no. But, if I am …. oh, if I am ready to be led …. the world can change forever.