Taking Time to Heal


“Stopping, calming, and resting are preconditions for healing.

When animals in the forest are wounded they find a place to lie down and

rest completely for many days….

They just rest and get the healing they need. 

~~~ Thich Nhat Hanh

I was thinking this morning how cool this life would be if it wasn’t for this dying crap that is positioned right at the end. Well, okay... the work thing is sort of a problem, too. They both suck. And if I’m lucky enough to live long enough, I have to suffer through aging as well. Hopefully … if I can pull it off … I won’t have to be working during that time, too, but who knows? That sucks, too.

Watching my friends, my parents, my friend’s parents and my other relatives go through the aging process and eventual death produces a lot of pain associated with grief and compassion for the difficulties of their journey. It also brings up a lot of fear about my own future. I still have that worry about my cats eating me when I die alone in my home. Buster might refrain, but, Bella … I’m not so sure. I actually don’t know what to say about this except ….. dammit, it sucks.

So, I read this reading this morning, and I’m glad I’m going out in the woods next week. I think I need it. I’m not sure yet if I’ll be checking in. I’m hopping into my car with my dog and my tent and heading north to cooler climes. We’ll see where the road takes us. I’m sure there will be some mountain-sitting and skinny-dipping in my near future. Y’all behave now.


From More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

We hurt. We suffer. We wrong our loved ones and they do wrong by us. Reaching desperately for an answer will not help us. Pretending we’re not hurt doesn’t help either. When we are wounded, the wound needs rest in order to heal. So it is with our souls. If we poke at our hurt, pick at the sore, rub it in the dirt of others’ opinions, we do not allow it time to heal.

If you’ve been hurt, accept that. Feel the hurt. Be aware of it. Let it heal. Maybe it would be better if you didn’t talk to that person for awhile. Maybe you need to let go of the relationship. Maybe you just need some quiet time. Whatever the answer is, find a safe place and allow yourself to heal.

If you’re feeling pain, be aware of it. Feel the pain, and then quit picking at the wound. Lie low. Quit fighting. Relax. Give your wounds time and enough rest to heal.

God, help me relax enough to stop, calm down and heal.

8 Comments on “Taking Time to Heal

  1. Happy camping ! Sounds like you could use a couple of nights off the grid(dle)…

    • We’ll see. Traveling alone can be lonely sometimes. But, hopefully I’ll meet lots of people and maybe hook up with some group hikes or kayak trips.

  2. Animals and gardening is very healing to me . You talk about your dog a lot I think that is great . I put a bird feeder up last year it has been unreal . I have lost 45 lbs so far . Hope you have safe and fun trip .

    • Keep up the great work. I love bird feeders. I haven’t had one in years, but I loved watching them come and go and change as the seasons did. I’ve been thinking of you guys a lot. This time last year we were camping. It was so much fun.

      I’ve actually started growing a few plants. I’ve never been good at growing things, but I’m doing better!

  3. When I’m at chemo my heart rate and blood pressure just tank. The nurses all get very concerned and upset and this happens every time. But I know I’m just being still and waiting for it to be over. And I’ve actually imagined it like the animals in the forest. They find a hiding spot and wait until it’s better. Our bodies, like the animals have an amazing ability to heal when given the chance.

    I’m a professional grower, if I can help you grow some things let me know. You can grow anything.

    I hope you find a great place to camp.

  4. Life is a rocky road and there’s no avoiding most of the potholes and rocks. I’ve been hitting a few of them lately so I know what you mean.
    Some things are too recent to let go of. I know that I will eventually, but for now I have to feel it. It is life.

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