I just want to say ‘thank you’ to my team. One of my friends calls his a Board of Directors. My friend Lisa calls her team my peeps. I’ve even heard the ‘team’ called a family ‘of choice’. Whatever your team is called doesn’t matter. It just matters that you have one. And, if yours is like mine, keep adding to the roster and eliminating those that are not good team players.
So, thank you to my team …. for yesterday … for a month ago … for last year. You know who you are. You are those that I text and you respond back with heartfelt support. You are the ones that send me pics and quotes that reflect my current mood. You are the ones who make the time to talk or have a bowl of ice cream as soon as you can make time for it. You are the ones who check on me after the crisis is over to make sure I’m back on track. You are also the ones that push me beyond my comfort zone. You are honest. You are real. And you are a great team player. I just hope I’m as great on your team as you are on mine.
Some Members of my Team:
There were times in my life when I didn’t have a team. There were times when I didn’t know I needed a team. I just sort of hung out with whomever showed up. As in building all good teams, I had to learn to recruit good players. First of all, I had to learn to show up in order to attract the players I needed. All of that took awhile, but it took a team to help me do it. I remember one Christmas right after my second divorce, I wanted to give t-shirts to those folks on my team that said “Sharon’s Team”. My team then included my acupuncturist Marlene, my gay boyfriend Michael, my friend Davina, my running coach Mark and several unnamed 12-step team members. It was a great team, and they did a great job pulling me through the muck.
I’m on several teams. I’m on my friend and running coach Jessica’s team. Even though she’s not on the payroll due to budget cuts, we are still on each other’s teams. I’m on Michael’s team. I’m on my friend JoAnn’s team. I like being on teams. I like the whole experience of being there when somebody needs a push or a hug or a good cry or sometimes even an “OMG this is funny”. It makes me feel like I belong. And the only way to get on a team is to be a good team player and to show up when the game is ‘on.’ I know if I don’t, I may get relegated to second team or cut.
Members of my team that I mainly see virtually these days:
If you don’t have a team, you have to do a few things to build one:
1. First of all, you need to advertise that you need a team. If you put yourself out there as not needing anybody, then why would anybody be on your team?
2. Secondly, you have to decide what game you are playing.
- Do you need people to support you through a difficult time?
- Are you needing some people to help get you to the next level in your career?
- Are you needing to improve your financial life?
- Are you looking for God?
- Do you need to pursue your creative interests but you are fearful of getting out there?
3. Once you determine your needs, you need to get out there and recruit. I have taken the direct approach by asking for someone to help me get where I want to go. I have also just let the world bring people to me by being in the right place and the right time. But, you have to be willing to bring up the topic to see if new people are potential recruits for your team. I met a woman once at a group, and I mentioned that I was new to the area and I wrote a blog. “I’m a blogger, too,” she said. Voila – she was a potential member of my new creative team.
4. Once you start recruiting, you need to start observing their skills. This is where it gets hard because you do have to eliminate some people. For whatever reason, they don’t show up. You have to realize they are not on your team. That’s a hard part for me. I want to teach them how to be there for me. That’s not really my job. If they want to be there for me, they’ll show up. I don’t have to encourage, beg, plead or knock down doors to get team members. If I do that, I’ll just get more of the same when it’s game time.
5. Last but not least make sure you have second string team members. They are no less important, they just may not be as available. Sometimes they will contribute something stellar when they fill a key role. Don’t overlook their capabilities.
I love my team. I don’t know what I’d do without them. Well, I do know, but I don’t want to go there. They help me follow my dreams. Sometimes following dreams is not so easy. One of my team members sent me the below pic this morning.
This is why you need a team … and sometimes a very large bat. Don’t be afraid to use it. 🙂