The Art of Being Single: I’m Listening

This morning one of my good friends told me that I was a “very strong woman.” What I heard was I was never going to find a man. Isn’t that interesting? What he meant as a very loving compliment actually means to me that I will remain single because no man will be attracted to […]

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The Art of Being Single: I Gave at the Office

A friend of mine told me the other day that he was concerned about me. When I asked why, he said he thought he saw me write that I was considering being a lesbian. “Oh, I think I did,” I said. “I was really just joking around, but, honestly, sometimes it’s attractive.” He was concerned […]

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Art of Being Single: Letting Go of the “Deal”

My friend Anne moved to a foreign country with her long-term boyfriend to teach. The relationship has been unraveling slowly, and we’ve caught back up with each other during this time. One of the best things about recovery is that we know that support helps …. in every situation. We actually met a long time […]

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The Art of Being Single: Independence

Tomorrow is Independence Day. Our forefathers signed the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, 1776. It is our national birthday. I was thinking about it this morning, and how exciting it must have been for a country to be declaring its independence and creating its own identity. It makes me think of the day that […]

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The Art of Being Single: Socializing

One of the benefits of being married is having a built-in companion for vacations, weekend activities and nightly dinners. It’s also one of the disadvantages. When I was married, I didn’t invest as heavily in my friendships and in socializing because it was easy to just go with my husband. And, truthfully, we did have […]

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The Art of Being Single: Saying No to Not Good Enough

MawMaw told me that the divorce problem started when women started working. Now, this was back when I was in college, so I don’t think the divorce rate was nearly what it is today. She went on further to say that when women went to work and found out that they could earn an income, […]

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The Art of Being Single: Technology

The other day I was in the darkest part of processing some sadness. I was in tears, feeling fear, grief and pain. A text came across my iPhone. It was a picture of my Dad, toasting me with a cigar in his mouth and the caption read, “luv u”. My parents don’t text. Hell, they […]

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The Art of Being Single: Getting Things Done…. Or NOT

I took my dog for a walk tonight, and two other dogs behind a fence were barking at her furiously. My dog is not friendly with other dogs, and I couldn’t keep her under control. She was pulling on me and trying to get to the fence to get into it with the other dogs. […]

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The Art of Being Single: Spirituality

The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors, reflecting their beliefs. So… relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth…. If we look honestly at our relationships, we can see so much about how we have created them. ~ Shakti Gawain […]

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The Art of Being Single: The Rose

Spiritual peace is important but more than that, self confidence and knowing your self worth is important. Woman wasn’t made to waste her time worrying about if a man will come along and save her. She has to save herself. – Jennifer Burke, A new friend given to me by an old friend who chose […]

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