Subtle Shifts Matter

I learned to motivate myself by being hard on myself. You are a loser, so you'd better shape up. You're fat... better exercise and eat right. Nobody likes you, you'd better learn to be nice.¬†Being mean to myself doesn't motivate me. Yes, it might cause me to get started with some action, but the shame … Continue reading Subtle Shifts Matter

Taking the Path of More Resistance

I mapped out my 11-miler for Sunday morning. I just could NOT do another circular run around my house. During the week I have to stay close to save time, but why on earth would I trace the same steps again when I have the freedom to roam? I traced a beautiful route online through … Continue reading Taking the Path of More Resistance

The Great “I Am”

I still struggle calling myself a runner. I use the walk/run method, and there is a strong inclination of serious runners to turn up their noses at walk breaks. Never mind the fact that they might walk at points when they are running long distances. I run in intervals throughout my race, so for some … Continue reading The Great “I Am”

Gratitude

What a glorious day my higher power hath made! What am I grateful for? I spent the day with Nancy who traveled with me through relapse, recovery, divorce and rebirth. She's one of those easy friends who totally gets my story and loves me through it. I am grateful for love in all kinds of … Continue reading Gratitude

The Pacifier

I always tell my friends that leaving is a process. When you are ending a significant relationship or making a big change, it's rarely a single decision. Most of the time, there are a thousand little decisions and awarenesses that move you away from the current state to the new state. And it usually involves … Continue reading The Pacifier

Learning from Anxiety

I woke up this morning before the alarm. My jaw was clenched. My eyes felt wild and panicked, searching for something to fixate on. The back of my neck gripped onto itself. I knew I wouldn't go back to sleep. My animals started to stir, reacting to my movement. Anxiety, dammit.... Damn IT!¬† I've been … Continue reading Learning from Anxiety

Our Need to Look Forward

  I had brunch at the Browns' house today on Dewey Lake. If you'll remember, I spent a month in the little cottage by the lake when I first moved up to Michigan. But today was the last meal that the Browns would have in the big cottage on the hill. I've had at least … Continue reading Our Need to Look Forward

Simplifing the Superhero

My Memphis friend Gene in turned me on to the Optimal Living Daily podcast a few weeks ago. The one he mentioned was one on writing, and I thought it was pretty cool, but I didn't listen again until this morning. Vacation is optimal living anyway, right? Justin, the author of this podcast, takes the … Continue reading Simplifing the Superhero

The Grief of Alcoholism

I read this article yesterday from the New Yorker. David Sedaris writes about his zany, funny mother who was overtaken by alcoholism in her later years. She was the organizing factor in their family. But as the children left, she became more organized around the clink of ice in a glass. I was struck by … Continue reading The Grief of Alcoholism

Just Start the Conversation

On the way home from Chicago yesterday, I listened to a podcast about the The Lonely American Man. Suicide rates for men have spun out of control. Seven out of 10 suicides in 2016 were white males. Middle-aged men seem to be particularly vulnerable. (Statistics on suicide) If you are interested, please listen to the … Continue reading Just Start the Conversation