"Never look back," my Aunt Iris said to me as a 35-year-old recently divorced woman. Right before her 25th Wedding Anniversary party I found out she had been divorced three times. There was no one else in my family that had been divorced that I could talk to, so this was a blessed discovery. When … Continue reading Never Look Back
I wrote this blog for a friend who was newly single a couple of years ago. I watched as she navigated her break-up with her significant other. I supported her as she went through the initial stages of grief .. anger .. bargaining .. denial ... depression ... acceptance. I let her talk ... and cry … Continue reading My Wish for You, My Single Friend….
One of my friends in Memphis used to say "fill your fillings, gurl!". I always giggled but usually I was so sad when she said it that it was hard to laugh too hard. Every time I get down in the dumps I hear her sweet voice reminding me to "fill my fillings" ... … Continue reading Fill Your Fillings, Gurl!
This morning I'm posting a listing for my diamond ring on eBay and am a bit reflective about how that ring was created. The cocktail ring is comprised of two diamonds in a white gold design. I've often been complimented on it. It is unique, and the two diamonds sit a bit of a distance … Continue reading The Act of Letting Go
One of my favorite movies of all time is Regarding Henry. If you haven't seen it, and you want to see a movie that makes you smile about the power of the human spirit to change and evolve through hardship, I encourage you to check it out. My favorite message in the movie among all … Continue reading Remember to Say ‘When’
My friend Alice told me I should write a book about the passages you go through when you get a divorce. Gail Sheehy wrote a book called Passages about the passages we all go through in life. So many things about our stories are different, but, really, our journeys are so similar. While I was … Continue reading Inertia: The Drive to Move the Rock
There's a couple I know who are separated. I've seen the changes in their lives on Facebook. No one's ever announced they are separated, and I have no idea if this is temporary or if they are moving toward divorce. It's basically none of my business, but, whatever is happening, they are separated and in a … Continue reading Loving and Missing My “In-Between” Place
A friend of mine is suffering through a divorce. The divorce is final, but I know from experience that a divorce is not final at the court appearance. It takes years for it to really be done. In this particular drama, one person is having a more difficult time letting go. I was the leaver … Continue reading Cutting the Ties That Bind
I am divorced. I'm actually divorced twice. But, a divorce of any number sucks. I know why God hates divorce. It's not that he wants us to suffer in an unhealthy marriage, it's just that divorce is horribly, wretchedly painful. No matter how you slice it, if it can be worked out, it's better than … Continue reading D-I-V-O-R-C-E