It’s My Job to Make Me Happy… Not Yours … or His

“Stop giving someone the job of making you happy.” …stolen from a friend of a friend of a friend’s status on Facebook. One of the many things I nagged my second husband about was the fact that after we married, he never brought me flowers anymore. When we were dating, he always brought me flowers. […]

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The Incessant Rocking of Worry

A group of friends and I were talking about worry yesterday. I read that worry was like sitting in a rocking chair. It feels like you are doing something, but it gets you nowhere. I have spent countless hours of my life in worry. And, I’ll never get those hours back. Still, I have a […]

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Living Series: Divine Guidance and Agency

My cousin Bonni is the one that is responsible for this mess I’m in. When I first started writing this blog in August of last year, she said that she thought something big was going to come of this. In my imagination, I hoped that I would become this great writer and make lots of […]

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Adjusting the Sails

I supervised a dispatch team for Whirlpool in Knoxville in 1995-96. We were responsible for dispatching service technicians on the West Coast – Seattle, Northern California, Arizona and Southern California. It was a fast-paced job with surprises every day. We were a team that pitched in and did each other’s jobs when necessary and basically […]

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Living: Learning to Be Me….In Living Color

I went on a first date for Valentine’s Day. I’ve never done that before. We set up the date around my travel schedule, and, I didn’t realize it was Valentine’s Day. When I realized it, I told him that if he wanted to do it on another night when things were less busy, we could […]

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Mid-Week Share: Step 3 – Principle of Surrender

Step 3: Surrender A lifetime of self-will run riot can come to a screeching halt, and change forever, by making a simple decision to turn it all over to a higher power. The principle of Surrender for me was a tough pill to swallow. I’m a get it done sort of woman. I figure out […]

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Girl Talk: Letter to Myself at 25

A friend of mine and fellow blogger, Jessica Sprenkel, approached me with the idea that she write a letter to her 51 year old self for my blog audience. She is 25. I thought it was a great idea and thought it would be a great twist to write one to my 25 year old […]

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Mid-Week Share: Step Two – Principle of FAITH

“If we do not change our direction, we are likely to end up where we are headed.” Ancient Chinese Proverb Across the top of the page in my Al-anon Works book, I have scrawled “Dare to Hope”. Al-anon is the “sister” group for Alcoholics Anonymous which is for friends and family of alcoholics. This is […]

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Transforming the “Shoulds” and “Should” Sayers

My friend Teri shared with me that she had a big change in perception as she got deeper into recovery about the “shoulds” she hears. “When I realized that I was perfectly okay being my human self, I was amazed at how my perception shifted.  People telling me I shouldn’t wear sweats or that I […]

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Mid-Week Inspiration: An Addiction to a Possibility

What is codependency? A lot of people ask me that. That’s because it’s really hard to define. The best definition I ever heard of codependency was this: Codependency is an addiction to a possibility.  The first time I heard this description, I could tell it hit home with people because everyone in the room went […]

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