I wrote this blog for a friend who was newly single a couple of years ago. I watched as she navigated her break-up with her significant other. I supported her as she went through the initial stages of grief .. anger .. bargaining .. denial … depression … acceptance. I let her talk … and cry […]
I’ve had 54 Valentine’s Days in my life. When I think back to the little girl Valentine’s Days, I remember Valentine’s Day with fond memories. Daddy would get us little red Valentine hearts filled with chocolate candies. I felt like such a big girl with a miniature of the giant chocolate heart he’d give to […]
My friend Alice told me I should write a book about the passages you go through when you get a divorce. Gail Sheehy wrote a book called Passages about the passages we all go through in life. So many things about our stories are different, but, really, our journeys are so similar. While I was […]
I can remember as a teenage girl longing to be loved by a boy. It started when I hit puberty, of course, because that’s when all the sh*t hits the fan. I had these romantic fantasies of what love was and what it meant. It was all storybook – Cinderella and Knights on White Horses. […]
My friend Jascia sent a link to this article to me as a suggested blog topic. It’s about all those lies that we tell our doctors. When I was in my early 20s, I saw a psychologist because my emotional life was a mess. I remember him pressing me on the topic of my alcohol […]
People only see what they are prepared to see. Ralph Waldo Emerson My friend Denise posted the above pic and quote on my Facebook wall. It was shared from a site called The Mind Unleashed. The very title of the site is pretty phenomenal when I think of unleashing the potential of the human mind. […]
I supervised a dispatch team for Whirlpool in Knoxville in 1995-96. We were responsible for dispatching service technicians on the West Coast – Seattle, Northern California, Arizona and Southern California. It was a fast-paced job with surprises every day. We were a team that pitched in and did each other’s jobs when necessary and basically […]
There’s a couple I know who are separated. I’ve seen the changes in their lives on Facebook. No one’s ever announced they are separated, and I have no idea if this is temporary or if they are moving toward divorce. It’s basically none of my business, but, whatever is happening, they are separated and in a […]
We had a newcomer in our Al-Anon meeting this week. She was in tears, and I so remembered that first day I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. I was in so much pain. I was afraid. The only thing I could do was cry. I was so overwhelmed with my life, and what I […]
A friend of mine is suffering through a divorce. The divorce is final, but I know from experience that a divorce is not final at the court appearance. It takes years for it to really be done. In this particular drama, one person is having a more difficult time letting go. I was the leaver […]