My Wish for You, My Single Friend….

I wrote this blog for a friend who was newly single a couple of years ago. I watched as she navigated her break-up with her significant other. I supported her as she went through the initial stages of grief .. anger .. bargaining .. denial … depression … acceptance. I let her talk … and cry […]

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Fifty Shades of Valentines

I’ve had 54 Valentine’s Days in my life. When I think back to the little girl Valentine’s Days, I remember Valentine’s Day with fond memories. Daddy would get us little red Valentine hearts filled with chocolate candies. I felt like such a big girl with a miniature of the giant chocolate heart he’d give to […]

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Inertia: The Drive to Move the Rock

My friend Alice told me I should write a book about the passages you go through when you get a divorce. Gail Sheehy wrote a book called Passages about the passages we all go through in life. So many things about our stories are different, but, really, our journeys are so similar. While I was […]

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The Art of Being Single: Loving

I can remember as a teenage girl longing to be loved by a boy. It started when I hit puberty, of course, because that’s when all the sh*t hits the fan. I had these romantic fantasies of what love was and what it meant. It was all storybook – Cinderella and Knights on White Horses. […]

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Girl Talk: Our Secrets Make Us Sick

My friend Jascia sent a link to this article to me as a suggested blog topic. It’s about all those lies that we tell our doctors. When I was in my early 20s, I saw a psychologist because my emotional life was a mess. I remember him pressing me on the topic of my alcohol […]

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Seeing for the First Time….Preparation is the Key

People only see what they are prepared to see. Ralph Waldo Emerson My friend Denise posted the above pic and quote on my Facebook wall. It was shared from a site called The Mind Unleashed. The very title of the site is pretty phenomenal when I think of unleashing the potential of the human mind. […]

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Adjusting the Sails

I supervised a dispatch team for Whirlpool in Knoxville in 1995-96. We were responsible for dispatching service technicians on the West Coast – Seattle, Northern California, Arizona and Southern California. It was a fast-paced job with surprises every day. We were a team that pitched in and did each other’s jobs when necessary and basically […]

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Loving and Missing My “In-Between” Place

There’s a couple I know who are separated. I’ve seen the changes in their lives on Facebook. No one’s ever announced they are separated, and I have no idea if this is temporary or if they are moving toward divorce. It’s basically none of my business, but, whatever is happening, they are separated and in a […]

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Mid-week Share: The Powerful Art of Listening

We had a newcomer in our Al-Anon meeting this week. She was in tears, and I so remembered that first day I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. I was in so much pain. I was afraid. The only thing I could do was cry. I was so overwhelmed with my life, and what I […]

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Cutting the Ties That Bind

A friend of mine is suffering through a divorce. The divorce is final, but I know from experience that a divorce is not final at the court appearance. It takes years for it to really be done. In this particular drama, one person is having a more difficult time letting go. I was the leaver […]

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