Cultivating Change

I heard a activist being interviewed on some newscast the other day. He was convinced that in order to make people change their behavior you had to shame them about what they were doing. Nobody else seemed to notice the fallacy, but it struck me strongly that shame was the wrong emotion to be cultivating. […]

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Ode to Shame

You showed up on my doorstep this morning… you …. I thought I’d left you long ago. I woke up sleepy, and I didn’t even need to hear a knock on the door. I knew you were there. I could feel you. I could feel the heaviness that precedes you wherever you are. At first […]

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Keep Your Head Down and Your Mouth Shut….No Way

In Brene’ Brown’s book Daring Greatly, she explores how shame works in schools and in corporations to squelch innovation and creativity. A middle school girl told her: There are times when you can ask questions or challenge ideas, but if you’ve got a teacher that doesn’t like that or the kids in the class make […]

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Midweek Share: Short-Circuiting Shame

I’m reading Brene’ Brown’s book Daring Greatly. She is a shame researcher. I don’t know how you get to be a shame researcher, but I know I’m a shame student. When I look back over my journey of recovery, shame has been one of my biggest teachers. Shame is painful. And, if you don’t believe […]

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Midweek Share: Listening to Shame

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. ~~Brene Brown Brene Brown has produced two of my favorite talks on vulnerability. I featured her first TED Talk called the Power of Vulnerability in my blog called Open Your Heart. In my spiritual path, I’ve discovered how essential it is to be vulnerable for emotional […]

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Mid-Week Share: Step 8 – Principle of Willingness

Step 8: Willingness Making a list of those harmed before coming into recovery may sound simple. Becoming willing to actually make those amends is the difficult part. will·ing adjective 1. disposed or consenting; inclined: willing to go along. 2. cheerfully consenting or ready: a willing worker. 3. done, given, borne, used, etc., with cheerful readiness. […]

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Mid-Week Share: Step 5 – Principle of Integrity

Step 5: Integrity Probably the most difficult of all the steps to face, Step 5 is also the one that provides the greatest opportunity for growth. integrity noun 1. adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty. 2. the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished: to preserve the integrity of the […]

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